时间：2021-07-19 13:28:51 admin
Life is filled with regrets. Ask anyone around you what their regrets are and they usually have no difficulty coming up with many items on their “regret list.” And for some reason our twenties are ripe for a field of regrets.
Perhaps it’s because as we get older we look back on that period of adulthood as the height of freedom and autonomy. As move into middle age， we look back and wish that we had made better choices and taken more opportunities. Here’s a list of things that we regret not doing in our 20s.
1. Travelling more
I regret not travelling more， and so does nearly everyone that I have asked. Before kids， and mortgages and marriages， when our commitments and expenses were lower， the opportunities for travel were much greater， but for some reason many of us thought we’d always have time for travel later.
We dreamed of visiting the pyramids of Egypt， surfing off the Hawaiian coast， dining at a Parisian café， drinking espresso in Rome， trekking through the rainforest， and so much more. Sadly， many of us never made these journeys and the opportunity passed us by.
2. Investing early
How many times have we kicked ourselves for not starting our 401Ks，in our twenties， for not putting our excess cash in long term investments， for not investing in our future early. No matter how much we try， we can never get back the head start that we missed. Playing catch up in our 40’s and 50’s is very difficult.
3. Being more responsible with spending
In order to invest in our retirement or save for that down payment， we would have needed to make wiser financial spending choices. Things like buying or holding on to that perfectly reliable used car， instead of splurging on the new model…because we could， eating out less and saving for a house instead， buying fewer shoes and purses and clothes and paying off student loans sooner. So many saving opportunities lost， money spent on tangible things， instead of on the future.
4. Better planning
I regret not focusing more on where I wanted to go in life， what I wanted to do， who I wanted to be and what it would take to get there. With some more planning in our twenties， we’d be further ahead in our 40s and perhaps a bit happier as well.
5. Seizing more experiences
I wish I had learned to ski and paint， speak Italian and do the Tango. I regret not living somewhere else before settling down. Others have said they regret not pursuing their hobbies or learning to sky dive or mountain climb. I prefer to stay on the ground， but I do regret not learning more， not trying new things that are hard to fit into the life of a forty something working wife and mother.
6. Living a more active lifestyle
The bodies of youth are wasted on the young… I wish I had run a marathon before my knees ached， that I had biked more， hiked more， and took spinning classes when my legs were stronger. I regret not joining a softball team or volleyball league. We don’t often realize that we have squandered our physical abilities until things start aching and creaking.
7. Making more friends
I regret not reaching out more， putting more effort into creating a tribe of support that would carry me through more difficult times. We socialize sure， but many of us don’t put enough importance on building deep and lasting friendships. Some do， many don’t and wish they had.
8. Pursuing a more meaningful career
Many of us wish we had taken more career risks， opted for meaning over money， pursued the career path we wanted instead of what we were expected to do or simply following the path that was laid out before us. How much better to have explored our options and pursued meaningful work in our twenties than to have spent 20 years doing something we don’t love.
Life is good; don’t misunderstand. Few of us walk around every day pining for our youth， at least I hope not， but we do occasionally look back with a wistful sigh and wish that we planned more， lived more， and stretched ourselves more when we had the freedom and energy to do so.
In the past, we thought so innocently that an honest heart always brings back an honest heart. 过去，我们总是天真地以为，真心能换来真心。 So...
Being sociable can mean many things. 说话的技巧有很多。 But in some aspects, there is only one criteria in judging whether one is sociable or not. And t...
If you suddenly get old tomorrow, would you feel regret when you look back at your life? 如果明天你就会突然变老，当你回顾你这一生的时候，你...
Self-disciplined people are not all outstanding people. But nearly all outstanding people are self-disciplined people. 自律的人不一定都优秀，但优秀的...
Happiness is so much simple, on your center of palm,a match a hand can grasp; Happiness is also very difficult, before your heel, A thousand mountains and rivers...
There are two primary choices in life: to accept conditions as they exist, or accept responsibility for changing them. ~Denis Waitley 人生有两大选择：要么...
A young man was getting ready to graduate from college. For many months he had admired a beautiful sports car in a dealer's showroom, and knowing his father coul...
The art of living is to know when to hold fast and when to let go. For life is a paradox: it enjoins us to cling to its many gifts even while it ordains their ev...